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What the Rhea-Sushant fiasco is trying to show us (which we're too dumb to hear)

The Sushant Singh Rajput - Rhea Chakraborty media fiasco is like the nth lesson in a multitude of social behavior patterns that we refuse to take as a learning opportunity. It's giving us the opportunity not to do what is our most tribal response and rise above it to seek better horizons with better instincts. 

Let's do a top assessment of its latest developments, without going into the details. An actor is dead. His girlfriend is suspected. His family and his girlfriend's family start a cycle of tit-for-tat: you speak, I oppose, and is currently in the nth Inception style sub story of that cycle. A state police started the investigation. They didn't move on it. Now with public pressure and a media trial, it went to the CBI. But the frenzy hasn't stopped. The only defense of ot is that all people want is #justice for..  some for Sushant and some for Rhea. They swear by the details that he said this and she said that. The strength in the details, they beg, is in their truth - of course, with twists are being added everyday, making the tag of truth less and less relevant. 

There's plenty of information on both sides. Every time one side seems more credible, the other says something to take that away from them. In this mess, people have chosen their sides. Those who continue to mourn for Sushant miss the man ans are fuelled by anger. Those who continue to fight for Rhea ask that she not be labelled just because she was on the wrong side of his life when he died. 

Sushant's fans don't want to wait for an investigation, claiming all the information that upholds their cause and are hellbent with the conviction that Rhea is a witch and she needs to be hunted down - all in honour of their screen prince. Rhea's supporters in the mix ask for due process with the right of everyone to claim and contradict without a public trial, in addition to a media one amid what seems like a ever-developing story. 

Whatever you choose, there are a few things you should note: 

Emotions may change facts in your head but they don't change facts on the ground.

 Just because you feel strongly for something you are predisposed to, and go into withdrawal when it's gone, it doesn't change whatever it was that eventually happened once we find out. Facts must drive how you eventuality come to feel, if you want to objectively align with whatever eventually did. You will feel similarly when something you like is being attacked. 

The story is evolving. Don't keep stagnated points of view just yet

Don't let your half-mature emotions come in the way of a half-evolved set of information, that is evolving further. There are twists and turns that you can't predict, which you neither should exclude or ignore once they arise 

Anything can be true 

As with two sides of a legal case, you could never know who's hiding what. It could be what it seems in your head right now. It could also be the complete opposite, eventually. 

Watch your narratives
        
In order to back up emotionally charged views, narratives, not fast changing facts (updated with immediate denials from the opposite side), are like the missing pieces of the jigsaw puzzle even if they don't actually exist. We will seek what our minds choose to seek the smaller we set our target for. 

You are always better than your unthinking, over passionate best

Bottomline, if you haven't painfully checked your behavior against all your non-suspicions, you are not even trying. Everything goes circularly so that the reality you want to see does not get affected. 

What everyone needs is #justiceforsushant by finding out what killed him and, at the same time, #justiceforrhea from people who want to make their minds based on preset loyalties. 

Funfact: with deathly loyalty, facts never matter, nor does any slither of truth. We'd have better luck with any actual justice at all if we keep our ideas to ourself and watch as the information cycle is completed before we start making full opinions again. 

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